Leaning in to Chilling Out
The weather outside is frightful, and unfortunately we don’t have a fireplace, and I do in fact have places to go. And most of the time, it doesn’t even snow….Gloomy skies and whipping wind are not the most inviting conditions to frolick about the city in my typical fashion. January is notoriously glum, requiring more intentional effort to keep my spirits lifted and my heart content. Winters in New York are not famous for their warmth and energy, and I’m very aware that I signed up for four distinct seasons when shifting coasts. As an active participant in these 20 degree mornings, I’m still finding it especially challenging to navigate the discomfort.
Ennui is a feeling of detachment or indifference. "It's what you would know as ze boredom" as so eloquently explained in ‘Inside Out 2’. Days are filled with more monotony and less excitement, as even leaving the apartment takes extra effort. The question of “Now What?” looms in my thoughts, and the sense of loneliness can be difficult to diffuse. So far, this winter consists of more melancholy than motivation, with my mood declining like the temperature. The irony of a 5:00 sunset in the city than never sleeps, has me all kinds of discombobulated.
But, rather than pushing these feelings to the side, I’m leaning into the blizzard induced blues with grace. Winter is nature’s gentle nudge to slow down, as animals hibernate and plants enter a dormant state. Why would we as humans respond to the colder weather and shorter days differently? This natural cycle of the seasons encourages us to conserve our spirit and bundle up. Of course, this would be off brand if I didn’t mention the particular sparkle of winter. Connecting over matcha, brisk walks through Central Park and getting lost in a good book are a few of many silver linings this season.
Boredom, while not comfortable to sit with, can result in positive results. When uninterested in usual tasks and routines, I’m encouraged to asses my shift in vitality and brainstorm solutions. Lacking motivation is an indicator that I’m ready and open to change my circumstances, whether that be small tweaks or large redirection. This period of ennui is difficult, but also exciting because it inspires inner reflection and self-compassion. Slowly but surely my sparkle returns as my choices align with the habits, people and places that feed my energy.
XOXO,
Miss (Ze Bored and Ze Bundled) Wright Now